Puberty can be a challenging time for children. It is a time of significant physical, emotional and social change, which can be hard to navigate. It is a time where they are often working towards increased independence with increased social and executive functioning demands. It’s important to note that while puberty can be more challenging for autistic individuals, it’s not a universal experience. Each person is unique, and some individuals may navigate puberty with relative ease, while others may face more difficulties. Providing understanding, support, and open communication can greatly help neurodiverse people during this period of their lives.
Preparing your child for puberty
It is important to establish an open dialogue with your child when discussing puberty. Creating a space where they are able to ask questions and share their concerns is vital to be able to best address their needs and support them through this time. Encouraging open communication allows your child to share their thoughts, fears, and uncertainties, promoting a sense of trust and understanding between both of you. Actively listen to their questions and concerns without judgment, and respond with empathy and patience. This approach will help them feel validated and reassured, fostering a positive atmosphere for discussing sensitive topics.
Puberty can have a significant impact on emotional regulation and sensory processing for neurodiverse adolescents. The hormonal changes and increased self-awareness during this time can intensify emotional responses, leading to heightened sensitivity and difficulty in managing overwhelming feelings. Sensory sensitivities may also be heightened, causing sensory overload and making it challenging to cope with environmental stimuli. To support neurodiverse adolescents during this period, they may need support to develop strategies to manage their regulation and the time and required to do so. Teaching emotional regulation skills, such as identifying emotions, implementing coping strategies, and fostering self-care practices, can also empower neurodiverse adolescents to navigate their emotional experiences more effectively. Consulting with your occupational therapist can provide valuable support in developing and implementing self-regulation strategies tailored to the specific needs of neurodiverse adolescents during puberty.
Be clear and specific
It can be hard to discuss topics regarding changes to bodies and sexual development with adolescents, and you may feel it is easier use analogies or euphemisms to describe or discuss different topics. However, it is important that children are provided clear information, so they can best understand the changes their bodies will or are going through, and to best support their impendence in this time. This also will support them in understanding that it is a universal experience, and not something to be concerned or embarrassed about.
Be open
During puberty, individuals may begin to explore and understand their own sexual orientation and gender identity. It is crucial to create a safe and supportive environment where they feel comfortable exploring their identity. By embracing their authentic selves and demonstrating acceptance, you can foster a sense of belonging, promote self-confidence, and ensure that your child feels loved and supported unconditionally, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Open dialogue, active listening, and educating oneself about LGBTQ+ issues are vital steps in promoting a positive and inclusive environment that celebrates the diversity of human experiences.
What topics should I consider discussing with my child?
- Engage in open conversations about the physical changes that take place during puberty, discussing how these changes may be experienced, when they typically happen, and the reasons behind their occurrence.
- Teach your child about changes in hygiene as a teenager and how to best manage personal hygiene.
- Discuss potential scenarios to ensure your child is prepared for unexpected situations, such as discussing how to handle periods occurring at unexpected times or erections happening at school.
- Friendships and healthy relationships; consent and respect.
Understanding and supporting autistic individuals through puberty requires open communication, knowledge, and empathy. By creating a safe and inclusive space, addressing their specific needs, and embracing their individuality, they can be best supported to navigate this complex stage of life with confidence and resilience. If you would like any assistance with helping your teen navigate through puberty, please email us on hello@occupationaltherapy.com.au or phone 9913 3823.
